Bringing Light, Truth & Love: Robrenda, Twin Souls [101 Summary. Proof & Secrets]

Robrenda, Twin Souls
Bringing Light, Truth & Love
[101 Summary. Proof & Secrets]

Robrenda Twin Souls
This Robrenda visual includes the original picture of Robert & Brenda’s Wedding GuestBook Cover.

Wedding guests wrote their wedding messages in both the Hong Kong and Ipoh, Malaysia Celebrations. Brenda José was a Portuguese born in Hong Kong. Robert Chaen is Chinese Malaysian born in Ipoh, Malaysia.

Anniversary - I carry you as we help others to be strong

Twin Souls Research by The Afterlife Channel
Robert have been researching and writing extensively about Twin Souls since his wife Brenda cross-over on 23 December 2013. Brenda his guardian angel of love has been whispering Secrets of The Afterlife to him ever since.

Brenda's Ossuary

Robrenda Twin Souls Mission:
In a nutshell: Bringing Light, Truth & Love.

(Robrenda is pronounced as rob-bren-da)


Robrenda’s Purpose Statements (V-M-V)

Robrenda’s Vision: Sharing the Secrets from The Afterlife with Love Angel Brenda
Robrenda’s Mission:  Bringing Light, Truth & Love.
Robrenda’s Core Values:  ● Light   ● Truth   ● Love   ● Wisdom   ● Compassion

Twin Souls Showdown -
Light Twin Souls Banishing Dark Twin Souls, Deceiving Spirits, and False Gods


Robrenda’s 7Bs Purpose:
The key activities and objectives of Robrenda Twin Souls Mission:
1)  ●  Bringing Light, Truth & Love.
2)  ●  Building Awareness, Proof & Secrets of The Afterlife, Afterlife Channel Communities, raising funds, providing workshops for spiritual breakthroughs, speaking and organizing Afterlife Conventions regionally
3)  ●  Blessing spiritually lost souls, grieving families, saying Crossover Prayers to the newly departed – through the Power of Trinity Prayer (praying soul-to-Angels-to-receiving souls); Predicting Premonition Disasters.
4)  ●  Bridging together Light Twin Souls, Light-Workers, and Interfaith Religions to counter the cancer spread of destructive cults (constructive and positive cults are welcomed).
5)  ●  Backing “Saving 72 Virgins” Network: Cult Awareness & Rescue and providing support for Ex-Cult Members and their families.
6)  ●  Banishing, Cornering, and Praying for Fallen Dark Twin Souls, Deceiving Spirits, and Fake gods to return back to the Soul Universe and immediately incarnate as human souls to pay for their Mega-Big Karmic Debts. click here
Backing and Praying for ArchAngels to banish Evil Fallen Angels of Lucifer-Satan grade: “Good Conquer Evil”
7)  ●  Balancing Check & Balance in Politics in Countries which had gone further into the Dark Side of Corruption, Crime, Killing, and Wars.

Robrenda's 7B Purposes

Robert & Brenda’s Twin Soul connection is eternal which means we are connected from time immemorial. They met in every lifetime, and they swap roles in various relationship configuration – some lifetimes as husband-wife (was in this current lifetime), soul siblings, sisters, brothers, cousins, parent-child, grandparent-child, Mongolian army chiefs/warriors, philosophers, apostles of a religious founder, crusaders, and French writers.


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A beautiful art representing The Praying Angel, The Love Angel & The Truth Angel
Robrenda, Twin Souls: Bringing Light, Truth & Love


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Twin Soul channeling the Truth Angel, Love Angel & other Angels and praying for Fallen Angels, Dark Twin Souls, newly crossed-over souls, grieving relatives  – through the Power of Trinity Prayer   (praying soul-to-Angels-to-receiving souls) nn[Art by Anne Stokes]

The Power of Trinity Prayer
(praying soul-to-Angels-to-receiving souls)
Robrenda recommends you to try this simple soul-to-Angels-souls method of channeling Angels for their blessings, 
The 4 simple steps in The Trinity Prayer Method:
1.  First state who you are by your first name (no need for your full names as even Angels are known for first names only):  “I’m Robert”
2.  State who are the receiving souls or yourself:  “I’m praying for Michelle and her boyfriend Sam.”   “I’m praying for myself or my soul.”
3.  Call upon specific Angels or Deities and the energies they represent e.g. “I call upon Love Angel Brenda.”  “I call upon Robrenda to shower blessings of light, truth, & love.”   “I call upon Kwan Yin to bless 
4.  State clearly your Intention of your Trinity Prayer:  “I pray for Michelle to have the courage to leave her abusive boyfriend Sam.”

So the entire Trinity Prayer will sound like this:
“I’m Robert. I’m praying for Michelle and her boyfriend Sam. I call upon Robrenda to shower blessings of light, truth, & love. I pray for Michelle to have the courage to leave her abusive boyfriend Sam.

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Links with Angels:
Twin Soul Robert is linked with The Angel of Truth aka The Truth Angel.
Twin Soul Brenda is linked with The Angel of Unconditional Love aka The Love Angel.
Robrenda Twin Soul (combined form) represent Light, Truth, & Love.

Note: Whisperer Robert Chaen is just a human albeit with the 7 Purposes & Capabilities at this moment whereas Brenda has become a full-fledged Angel, 100% in the Angelic Realm and connecting with channeling souls on Earth.

Please don’t pray to Robert as he has not gone 100% to the Angelic Realm yet. Rather if you want to call upon Truth and Light (Light is the synergistic combined energies of Truth & Love), then call upon Robrenda instead.


Difference between Angelic Realm and Soul Universe
The Angelic Realm is where Guardian Angels, ArchAngels (such as Michael, Gabriel, Metatron, Auriel, and Raphael, etc.), The Holy Ghost, Angels (like Brenda, the Love Angel) sends their messages, guidance, protection, and Divine Intervention


Where is Brenda now and When is she Incarnating?
Since Brenda has crossed-over to the Angelic Realm, her angelic entity operates only in the Angelic Realm and not from the Soul Universe. She whispered to Robert through a psychic celebrity Joanne on 15 February 2017 that she will incarnate 5 years after she crossed over.

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Twin Souls Soul Agreement Meeting
Robert & Brenda made a Soul Agreement on 23 August 2017 that Brenda’s Soul will enter a womb and will be born around after 23 December 2018. Twin Souls Robert & Brenda are predestined to meet each other naturally without actively searching for each other from the 7.5 billion living humans on Earth.

Likely Brenda will incarnate as a girl and the process of Soul Agreement Meeting may start as early as when the new incarnated Brenda is 2-4 years old (around 2020-2022), up to as late as 18 years old (around 2036-2037).


SECRET Twin Soul New Incarnation Verification Tests:
The New Incarnation Verification Tests will not be revealed to the public so as to ensure that potential parents or suspected girl incarnations do not read about them and try to convince Robert.

Only Brenda & Robert had ‘Soul Agreed’ some secret tests BEFORE she incarnates.
During the period of September 2017 to December 2018 the Twin Souls Agreement whisperings will be formalized.

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Robrenda Twin Souls Continuous Incarnation
This is the very first time in Robert & Brenda Twin Souls History where a Continuous Twin Soul New Incarnation as each Twin Soul take turns to incarnate is happening. Brenda whispers that it is because Earth has evolved so drastically in the last 50 years and especially in the Internet Age where human and spiritual evolution is greatly accelerated.

This compares with The Dalai Lama’s new continuous incarnation process (the current Dalai Lama is the 14th Incarnation of Tulku). Since Dalai Lama had lost his Potala Palace, The Dalai Lama had openly declared he had chosen not to incarnate until the Tibetan issue is settled which he thinks it will not happen in his lifetime.

Let Your Soul Fly


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By Robrenda
Published on 1 September 2017.
Updated on 30 September 2017.

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What happens when a person dies?

Light at the end of the tunnel

When a person dies, the following 4 Scenarios can happen:
1. “Soul Hanging Around”:
The soul hangs around in spirit form until the official religious ritual
(e.g. funeral mass/ rites) is performed. Then the soul crossover first to the Spirit/Soul Universe BEFORE the soul reincarnates.

A soul usually “hangs around” for 7 days to 49 days or 7 weeks before the returns to the Soul Universe.

NOTE:  The soul cannot reincarnate without going first to the Soul Universe.

The soul may stay in the Soul Universe for a human split second to several human lifetimes before the soul is ready to reincarnate.

2. “Ghost”:
The soul is unsettled and not ready to crossover to the 6th or 7th Dimensions – it hangs around in the Ghost World, thw 5th Dimension.

This type of soul is commonly called “Ghost.” It may be sensed as an apparition, a certain color, a distinctive smell (floral, roses), a feeling (cold, warm),

3. “Rest In Peace”:
The soul crossover smoothly usually i.e. “The soul Rest In Peace”
. Then the soul wants to be a Guardian Angel to the soul’s loved ones still on Earth. Or the soul becomes an Angel who role is


No human activities in Heaven


The Dimensions: The Soul Universe (The 7th Dimension) is different from The Angelic Realm (The 6th Dimension) and Earth & Physical Universe (The 4th Dimension):

Q.  What is the Soul Universe?
A.  It is not a physical place. It is also called “The 7th Dimension”.
Absolutely NOTHING physical. All souls in the Soul Universe is in Egg/ Seed Stage, 

The Spirit/Soul Universe is non-physical realm of existence. There are many names for this: Paradise, Heaven, Nirvana, Moksha, Beforelife (before birth)

There are no human activities or Karma in the Soul Universe. Time can be humanly perceived there. Souls in Soul Universe have no human body – in Seed/Egg/ Soul Hibernation / in Limbo / in a non-physical ‘Soul’s Winter“)

Q.  Who are in the Soul Universe?
A.  Any soul not reincarnated stays in the Soul Universe.

Q.  Why the Soul Universe?
A.  The reason is the Soul must return to Soul Universe (The Beforelife) before reincarnating.

Q.  When does the Soul spend time in the Soul Universe?
A.   The time between a Soul crossing over to the Other Side and reincarnating into a body on Earth is spent in the Soul Universe.
There is a time limit for the Soul to stay in the Soul Universe – depending on the Souls

Q.  Where is the Soul Universe?
A.  It’s not here. It’s in kind of a parallel non-physical universe.

Q.  How does the soul travel to the Soul Universe?
A.  Through Astral Travelling, the soul without a human body can choose to be in only 2 Dimensions: 1) Soul Universe where there are no human activities   2) Angelic Realm where the soul takes on an angelic form which is non-physical, the Angelic Body can be “seen” through

The Sixth Sense: Paranormal Sensory Experiences & Intuition, Gut feel

●  Claircognizance (knowing)
It is one of the most doubted abilities by those who hold this intuitive gift, because it is often hard to discern between what is a claircognizant thought delivered from Spirit and what is a just a self thought, according to Amanda Linette Meder Psychic Medium.

●  Clairsentience (feeling or touching)

●  Clairvoyance (seeing)

●  Clairaudience: (hearing voices, sounds or music that are not audible to the normal ear)

●  Clairolfactus (smelling)

●  Clairgustance (tasting)

The Seventh Sense:  Beyond the Physical & 4D, 5D to 6D 7D Dimension
Sensing Guardian Angels, ArchAngels (ArchAngel Gabriel, Michael, Raphael, Auriel, Metatron), Holy Ghost (Catholicism), Deity Energy Entities (Kwan Yin), Religious Founder Souls (Buddha, Christ, ) & Ascended/ Enlightened Master Souls (Buddha


Bad News for Jihadists
Jihadists and Martyrs who believe that 72 Virgins will be waiting for them, I’m sorry to disappoint there is no sex, no drinking, no eating, no NOTHING – no human activities.

Why? Because if you need a human body to have human activities. And once you have human bodies, the human body will get sick, and die eventually.

The soul exist in what I call “the Seed/Egg stage” like a seed it contains all the souls’ DNA i.e. Karmic Accounts with itself, other souls, etc. When the seed is planted i.e. when the soul reincarnates then the soul’s Tree of Life grows. The soul takes a human body to play a role on Earth (called Dharma, or work ethics, earthly roles).

Q. Many people take solace that they will meet their departed loved one when they die, so do they get to meet the departed.
A. Not quite. Because by the time one crosses over, the loved one may have reincarnated. But there is some truth in that there was a karmic connection with that loved one so their paths may cross in a future lifetime.

Q. What is a Soul Agreement?
A Soul Agreement is a unique agreement between 2 or more souls – on a soul-to-soul level, not physical level. It’s “an agreement that is made in ‘Heaven’ so it is spiritually binding, not legally binding like man-made laws.”

The Soul Agreement can be about:
● Incarnating as one’s own child, best friend, or relative, business partner, activist.
● Fulfilling a broken promise or a new promise with each other’s soul.
Agreeing to choose a particular time and place for future incarnations.


FAQs on Death, Heaven, Ghosts:

Q. Should I let the Departed RIP, or should I contact them?

A. The truth is it is all about Whispering & communicating with an Eternal Soul who never dies. Although a Soul may be Resting In Peace as a ‘seed/ egg’ with no human experiences or activities, the Soul can go the Angelic Realm which exist parallel with Earth & the Universe. From ‘The Other Side’ they can be ‘guardian angels at will’ to guide their loved ones and send Afterlife Signs.

Q. Brenda’s interpretation of Heaven is not what most people imagine it to be?
A. Yes, most people imagine Heaven to have human activities but let’s think about it – if souls in Heaven have human bodies then they are subjected to physical laws of aging, hunger, and pain.

Q.  Does the Soul have Soul Memory?
A.  Soul Memory has the equivalent ‘Hard Disk’ and ‘Software’ in the form of:
“Birth mark

Fear of cars (from a car accident),
Watch this amazing film “I Origins” which explores this phenomena  click here

Conscious memory
Unconscious memory


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By Whisperer Robert Chaen with The Love Angel Brenda
Published on 8 September 2017.
Updated on 26 September 2017.

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Where is the Soul, Guardian Angels, Heaven, Devil, or God 101? [Twin Souls Part 91]

Where is the Soul, Guardian Angels, Heaven, Devil, or God 101?
[Twin Souls Part 91]

The Soul, your soul by itself has no physical dimensions, time, or Karma.

Therefore, you can’t even describe the soul as smaller than the tiniest known physical substance, “Quarks”.

“The Soul is beyond humans’ understanding or imagination, yet the soul is the easiest to comprehend when you let go of religious or common cultural beliefs.”

The Soul is in the “egg-seed” stage of nothingness. Some call it “nirvana, moksha, mukti” i.e. free from the cycle of birth and rebirth. As such the soul does not need or have any physical place to stay  i.e. a “soul world”, or a non-physical place like “Heaven”.

Many people mistake Heaven as the place for souls to rest in peace when they pass away from their physical bodies. John Lennon was very close, he saw something when he sang…

“Imagine there’s no heaven
It’s easy if you try
No hell below us”
(“Imagine” lyrics by John Lennon)

Because… there’s no Heaven or Hell.
Heaven and Hell is a human invention, understanding and interpretation.

No human activities in Heaven

The Soul in the egg stage experiences nothing because the Soul needs a physical body or a “subtle body” to experience. Therefore, the Soul in egg stage has no physical dimensions, time, or Karma. No human activities, no sex, no eating, no talking, no sickness, no birth, no death, no war, no age, no heaven, no hell, no religion, no god…

“Imagine there’s no countries
It isn’t hard to do
Nothing to kill or die for
And no religion, too.
Imagine no possessions
I wonder if you can
No need for greed or hunger
A brotherhood of man
Imagine all the people
Sharing all the world…”
(“Imagine” lyrics by John Lennon)

The Soul stay in the egg stage until the Soul’s “Karmic Clock” send it to a physical body where the Soul experiences physical dimensions, 5 senses, all human activities, and Karma (the return of good and bad Karma from all past lives).

When the body dies, the Soul goes back to egg-seed stage. When the Soul’s Karmic clock sends it to next body, the cycle continues.

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I hope this answers the eternal question:
Q. Did the chicken or egg come first?

The Soul can be connected to “non-physical subtle, angelic bodies” such as a “Guardian Angel” (, “ArchAngels” (like Gabriel), ghosts (souls who had not Rest In Peace, who have not crossed over to egg stage), religious founders (Christ, Muhammad, Buddha), deities  (Kwan Yin, Krishna, Pele), animals, insects, inanimate objects  – regardless of the Soul is in egg stage or in a physical body.

From a human’s perspective, the “Guardian Angel” is one who helps, guides, protects, and conducts “divine interventions”.

From an Angelic perspective, there are no physical limits. An Angel can use any human, stranger, animal, insect, nature, inanimate object, music, car, super computers, etc. to send the message across, or carry out a divine intervention.

Humans have always tried to manipulate science, nature, animals, insects, genes, finance, history, media, politics, Karma (i.e. good deeds), and God for their selfish desires.

But humans cannot manipulate Karma, Fate, Destiny, and Predestination. Not quite.

But Karma is not God.

Karma is the seasonal collective return of good and bad actions of an individual, and all humans, nature, and living creatures at a particular time.

God and Religions are like Heaven & Hell which are a human invention, understanding and interpretation.

God is an eternal Earth’s human need to search for truth, unconditional love, compassion, hope, purpose, meaning in life, and other human values.

Humans created and worshipped God (in all names and forms), deities, religions, faith, filial piety, Super-Heroes & Villains, demi-gods, kings, prime ministers, celebrities, bosses, greed & the 7 Deadly Sins, possessions, and money is the “new God”…
Such is human behavior throughout its rather short history and the future.

God “exists” in the minds, hearts, and consciousness of humans. God consciousness does not exist with Earth’s animals, cats, dogs, and all life creatures.

Nature, Living Creatures, Humans, Earth, and Karma have a life of its own.

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Both The Devil (our Dark Side) and The Angel (our Light Side) exists symbolically within, in that we are constantly struggling with our conscience, negativity and positivity, the Yin-Yang of conscience.

A long time ago, in galaxies far far away… in Alien lifeforms, Alien consciousness and communications are uniquely different in each of the countless galaxies. Therefore, the Star Wars version of a Universe where most aliens speak English and had similar beliefs of The Force and The Dark Side simply does NOT exist…
Or… The Force and The Dark Side does exist…

You may say I’m a dreamer
But I’m not the only one
I hope someday you’ll join us
And the world will live as one”


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IS HEAVEN HALAL?” [WARNING: This is a Non-Halal Satire] [Twin Souls Part 90]

[WARNING: This is a Non-Halal Satire]
[Twin Souls Part 90]

If you have no sense of humor or a religious bigot, please don’t read pass this! (second warning, your faith will be forever shaken haha).

If 3/4 of the Earthlings found out that Heaven is actually Halal, I think half will rather go to HELL.

Q. What IF you found out that Heaven is NON-Halal, will it be your biggest upset of all time and you refuse to go to Heaven (just saying)?”

Q. WHAT IF as a dead Jihadist, you found out that the 72 Virgins waiting in Heaven are non-halal Christians?
Is it the same 72 Eternal Virgins as promised by a Holy Book (it implies the oldest profession is in Heaven). Is there an expiry date for any of these ageless Virgins?
Is there any way a Jihadist can check if she is still a Virgin? What is she is frigid?
If the Jihadist was a female, who are these 72 Male Virgins (what is his race, religion, age; or is there no such heavenly reward as a female jihadist?)
What IF the Jihadist was gay, and wanted…
What if you didn’t like any of the Virgins?
There is no guarantee that the 72 Virgins are beautiful, is there?
What if all the Virgins are on annual leave, and you are left with some sex toys…
Who in Heaven selected the 72 Willing Virgins, anyways?
Do these Virgins have a choice, or it’s God’s Will? Bismillah.

We really should wonder about such thoughts, especially if you are a religious fanatic.

This is a FACT: more than 99% people (as many as there are humans that many Religions there are on Earth) will be very upset or wrong when they get to Heaven. Unless… ALL Religions are somewhat WRONG. 

Maybe, just maybe in The Secret Afterlife… there are NO HUMAN EXPERIENCES…
no sex, no virgins, no eating, no sickness, no jobs, no war, no death, no birth, no aging, no iPhone, no cars, no cigarettes, no food, no water, no internet, no money, no power, no corruption, no Karma, no punishment, no 10 Commandments, no human rewards, no wars, no politics, no police, no courts, no human sounds, no human sight, no music, no DJ/VJ, no gravity, no movement, no travelling, no weather, no natural or human disasters, no suffering, no time, no measurement, no ghosts, no angels…
no God as humans commonly understand, no race, no Heaven…

no Hell below us, no religion too (John Lennon knew something)…

NOTHINGNESS & Oneness connection with all life, planets, alien life forms
because we don’t have a HUMAN BODY to experience Human Experiences in the secret Afterlife

In the Afterlife, you are in Seed stage waiting for your Reincarnation according to your Soul’s total Karma.

Think about it.


From Twin Souls Whispering between The Love Angel Brenda & Whisperer Robert Chaen. The Love Angel Brenda has been soul whispering to Robert 25 minutes before she crossed-over on 23 December 2013.

Twin Souls Whisperings with Brenda

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A Tale of Two Wives Same Date Deaths [Twin Souls Part 89]

This is a true story of the PREDESTINY of 2 Wives who died on the same day December 23 – 3 years apart. And how the 2 wives got their husbands to carry on their LEGACIES.
Bring out your tissues.

On Christmas Eve 2016, I received a Whatsapp message from C.E. Teoh, a trainer associate of mine, about his family being involved in a car ACCIDENT at around Slim River, on their way to his hometown Penang for his father-in-law’s birthday celebration – no different from any other year.

He wrote his beloved wife Siew See was called home to be with God. I was shocked!

The car had a left side tyre exploded! Although he was calm and held the steering wheel tight, the Peugeot unexpectedly spun clockwise 180⁰ and slammed into the road divider! Teoh surreally looked at his motionless wife Siew See sitting in front, next to him.

He looked back at his son Jonathan sitting on the left side screaming in pain from a crushed left foot. But Jonathan was more concern about his mum.

Teoh’s daughter Abigail sitting behind whispered to her dad to stay calm and was a voice of guidance in an extreme crisis. Passerbys helped to call the Ambulance. Siew See had no pulse. She died on the spot.

His son Jonathan lost 4 left foot toes (except the pinky toe). He was in Assunta Hospital after a successful operation. His daughter Abigail, maid, and himself were not hurt.

Jonathan, a Hebrew name means “Gracious Gift of God” is also the same name of the only Nephew in my family. In Hebrew the meaning of the name Abigail is: Father rejoiced, or father’s joy. Gives joy. The intelligent, beautiful Abigail was Old Testament King David’s third wife, described as ‘good in discretion and beautiful in form.’

I’m a Soul Whisperer. This means I pray for Souls to cross-over to The Secret Afterlife peacefully before and after death, and not become a “ghost” (a soul which hangs around because of some unsettled Karma). I pray to crossed-over souls to give their close ones reassuring Afterlife Signs which individuals can relate to. I also counsel, help relatives grieve and move on in life.

I myself had witnessed my wife of 17 years Brenda José died over a period of 23 hours 23 minutes on 23 December 2013, and crossover exactly at 5:23 pm. It was THE hardest, longest, the most agonizing, and the most helpless experience in my life.

Many people wish they will be at their loved ones’ side at the time of passing over. But let me tell you it will be one of the toughest thing to go through, if it ever happens.

I had previously wished her dying was not so long and agonizing. I wished her death was quick. But when I heard Teoh’s story, I now accept my destiny and Brenda’s fate.

So, on the third memorial anniversary of Brenda, when a friend of mine lost his wife on the same date it brought me to tears instantly as it triggered my own traumatic memory of that fateful day 3 years ago. One never forget such memories.

A loss of a loved one is just indescribable to anyone who never experienced it.

I remember one of my Papillon (butterfly) Personal Effectiveness graduates told me get a hold of myself during my roller coaster emotional Eulogy at Brenda Jose’s Memorial on 11 January 2014. He simply had NO idea of the deep soul-felt feelings.

I sensed he felt real awkward to see a man cry publicly, and he might even be protecting me from further public embarrassment. Others just hug me which was a better way of communication. And then there were countless close friends who ABANDON me and did not attend the memorial out of awkwardness – they just did not know how to relate to me or their own loss of Brenda.

Another person, who is a close friend, business associate, as well as a client challenged and grilled me for 2 hours half a year ago and accused me for not letting go of Brenda as I regularly talked, wrote, and shared a lot about Brenda and “whisperings” from the Other Side.

Let go. Let God.
I let go of massive guilt that I did not fulfill my promise to her to bring her back from Hong Kong. I let Brenda go at her death bed. I surrendered to God first , and then I surrendered to her – as she said that she would not go until I did that. 3 minutes after I surrendered she left at 5:23 pm.

Brenda’s last 3 words: “I drama queen!”. The “angelic form” of Brenda is definitely super-dramatic with irrefutable Afterlife Signs, wacky sense of humor, wise and knowledgeable beyond human understanding. Read about my whisperings with Brenda in her last 25 minutes.

A good friend of mine David, a famous editor, who was deeply heart-broken when his wife died from illness. He shared a story about a famous writer I think it was Mark Twain or Hans Christian Andersen who famously replied when he was frequently asked why he had not let go of his wife: “No! I would not let go of my wife! She always with me!” Actually he had let her wife go, but her memory stayed with him forever, he talked a lot about her, and he yearn to be with her in the Afterlife.

Teoh shared he still have not slept in his Master Bedroom after 1.5 months as a room or objects are triggers of fresh memories. You may ask “what’s the matter?”. I can relate to that as I too am reluctant to do business in Hong Kong as everywhere I go in Hong Kong I have some strong memories of being with Brenda in those favorite places. Now after 3 years I feel I’m ready to claim back my power and my original business in Hong Kong.

It took me 2 years after her crossing-over to give away Brenda’s high end clothes to a CSR flea market. And nearly 3 years to clear her 40+ boxes she left with me, and give to charity.

Brenda died from Crohn’s Disease, an incurable digestive disease that can cause inflammation and perforation of large intestines, toxicating and damaging all internal organs.

I quickly wrote back that I was in tears, and I was praying for him and his family. I wrote that I believed his wife Siew See will be his guardian angel as Brenda is my guardian angel guiding, protecting and alerting me.

I suggested that he used Facebook as a Funeral Event Page. Teoh wrote back that his family was rushing to place an obituary ad for the next day in a local English newspaper. His family is of the opinion there would be too many questions to take. Both his brother-in-law posted on his FB and his wife’s FB wall.

I wrote that he was right because of the shock and initial denial nearly all friends and relatives will bombard him with questions and more questions as they want a “CNN Live” updates on the unfolding situation.

C.E. Teoh & Robert Chaen on 5 February 2017 – CNY Day 9 Brunch.

I suggested a few solutions for his clear decision-making:

1) Facebook has the most direct reach of news to friends and relatives than mainstream newspapers.
2) Put a clause in caps like:
3) Most updates will be in this FB page.
4) Use this as a Tribute and Obituary page for relatives and friends to post their condolences, tributes, and comments.

Hopefully, with this story our readers, relatives and friends of Teoh, Siew See, me, and Brenda may get a glimpse of what Teoh, his family and I went through. You ask us to stay STRONG, we thank you for that. We are strong, but we are still humans. You may have no idea what’s like to be there…

I believe one can be strong if ever a crisis happens.

Now CE Teoh and Robert Chaen are exploring ways they can collaborate in ChangeU International (


A GRIEVING often goes through any of these 14+ Phases in a Roller-Coaster ride of Emotions:
Anger at God (“Why me, why the victim?”), life, at close ones
Abandonment and loneliness from close friends and relatives.
“Nobody” seems to understand what you are going through. People feel awkward and dismiss your raw public feelings.
Hurt by insensitive people (Brenda’s sister-in-law’s sister accused me of being a conman, and questioned why I was there at her death bed! The temptation is give them hell but letting go is so much harder.)
Massive guilt.
Ranting to keep one’s sanity (I find blogging really helps me to heal).
Paralysis and Inertia to do anything.
Not wanting to look at objects or be at certain places or rooms as they are memory reminders of missing that someone special.
You yearn to be with the departed soul, and may want to give up living as you find “no meaning” to continue to live. You become insidious, reckless, and you don’t care if you die .
You want a reassuring Afterlife Sign from the departed soul.
You start Talking to the Departed (and the soul “talks” back from The Other Side, and only you KNOW it’s him or her).
Depression, eating for relief and escape.
You want the Truth and seek Unconditional Love. Liars and hypocrites piss you off the most.
Petty things don’t matter much to you.
You need to get psychological help and support from your Church/ Temple/ Mosque/ Society.


Click for a sample template of Brenda’s Obituary-Tribute-Condolences Page.

One thing Andrew, my brother who is a Medical Doctor, did that was very beneficial when I arrived at Hong Kong International Airport from Kuala Lumpur was to get me straight into a normal functional routine as we took a slow bus back to his place.

I was like a shell-shocked walking zombie who had a sleepless night rushing to take the first flight out to Hong Kong to see Brenda. I was highly irritated with my brother for such mundane house rules and meaningless house instructions.

But you know what, normal routines like eating, showering, chatting, and even sleeping grounded me and prevented me from going to depression, despair, and massive guilt. It forced me to be physically, emotionally, mentally, and spiritually FUNCTIONAL which is the most useful thing in such extreme personal crisis.

In hindsight, I thanked my brother for this and that Brenda could hear me even when she was in a coma, as I whispered last FB and Whatsapp messages from her close friends, relatives, and graduates from all over the world.

Hero-CEO Whisperer Robert Chaen is the CEO of



From Twin Souls Whispering between Whisperer Robert Chaen & The Love Angel Brenda
Brenda communicated with Robert in her last 25 minutes, and showed him an irrefutable 7-11 Afterlife Sign 2 hours after she crossed-over. Since crossing-over in 23 December 2013, Brenda continues to send countless afterlife signs, and whispers Secrets from The Other Side.

Twin Souls Whisperings with Brenda
This is the last “forever” FB banner picture in Brenda Jose’s fb page.

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4 Myths About Mental Health in US: What we get wrong


4 Myths About Mental Health in US: What we get wrong
by Francesca Fiorentini

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Myth #1: Mental illness is rare.
Actually 1 in 4 adults experiences mental illness every year.
This includes depression, anxiety, eating disorders, OCD, Bipolar disorder, and schizophrenia.

Celebrities have spoken out about the importance of addressing mental health issues of their own.
Jon Hamm talks about his struggle with depression.
Lady Gaga reveals past eating disorder and depression.
Lena Durham shares stories about her OCD.
Demi Lovato says “Bipolar Disorder really got her life off track. But today I’m proud to say that I’m living proof that someone can live, love and be well with Bipolar Disorder when they get the education, support, and treatment they need.”

Myth #2: They can find help.
90 million Americans are without easy access.
30% of homeless have serious mental illness.
10X as many mentally ill in prison vs. state hospitals

Myth #3: The mentally ill are violent.
Tragedies, like Andreas Lubitz of Germanwings plane who locked the captain out and crashed the plane with the loss of 150 lives, inaccurately highlight that mentally ill were violent or mass murders.
Only 3-5% of violent acts are committed by people with serious mental illness.
In fact, people with mental illnesses are 10 times more likely to be VICTIMS of violent crime than the rest of society.
Out of the 38,000 people who committed suicide each year, it is estimated that 90% have had a mentally illness.
People with mental illness die 23 years sooner than other Americans.

Myth #4: It’s too expensive to fix.
In reality taxpayers actually end up paying more for the CONSEQUENCES of mental illness than they would for preventive treatment.
For every $2k-$3k on treatment = $50,000 saved on incarceration costs.

Maybe, the SYSTEM is truly INSANE.



Bhutan’s Dark Secret to Happiness

On a visit to Thimphu, the capital of Bhutan, I found myself sitting across from a man named Karma Ura, spilling my guts. Maybe it was the fact that he was named Karma, or the thin air, or the way travel melts my defences, but I decided to confess something very personal. Not that long before, seemingly out of the blue, I had experienced some disturbing symptoms: shortness of breath, dizziness, numbness in my hands and feet. At first, I feared I was having a heart attack, or going crazy. Maybe both. So I went to the doctor, who ran a series of tests and found…

“Nothing,” said Ura. Even before I could complete my sentence, he knew that my fears were unfounded. I was not dying, at least not as quickly as I feared. I was having a panic attack.

Thimphu, capital of Bhutan (Credit: Credit: Thomas Halle/Getty)

Thimphu, capital of Bhutan. (Credit: Thomas Halle/Getty)

What I wanted to know was: why now – my life was going uncharacteristically well – and what could I do about it?

“You need to think about death for five minutes every day,” Ura replied. “It will cure you.”

“How?” I said, dumbfounded.

“It is this thing, this fear of death, this fear of dying before we have accomplished what we want or seen our children grow. This is what is troubling you.”

“But why would I want to think about something so depressing?”

“Rich people in the West, they have not touched dead bodies, fresh wounds, rotten things. This is a problem. This is the human condition. We have to be ready for the moment we cease to exist.”

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Places, like people, have a way of surprising us, provided we are open to the possibility of surprise and not weighed down with preconceived notions. The Himalayan kingdom is best known for its innovative policy of Gross National Happiness; it’s a land where contentment supposedly reigns and sorrow is denied entry. Bhutan is indeed a special place (and Ura, director of the Centre for Bhutan Studies, a special person) but that specialness is more nuanced and, frankly, less sunny than the dreamy Shangri-La image we project onto it.

Memorial Chorten Monastery in Thimphu (Credit: Credit: Prakash Mathema/AFP/Getty)

Memorial Chorten Monastery in Thimphu. (Credit: Prakash Mathema/AFP/Getty)

Actually, by suggesting I think about death once a day, Ura was going easy on me. In Bhutanese culture, one is expected to think about death five times a day. That would be remarkable for any nation, but especially for one so closely equated with happiness as Bhutan. Is this secretly a land of darkness and despair?

Not necessarily. Some recent research suggests that, by thinking about death so often, the Bhutanese may be on to something. In a 2007 study, University of Kentucky psychologists Nathan DeWall and Roy Baumesiter divided several dozen students into two groups. One group was told to think about a painful visit to the dentist while the other group was instructed to contemplate their own death. Both groups were then asked to complete stem words, such as “jo_”. The second group – the one that had been thinking about death – was far more likely to construct positive words, such as “joy”. This led the researchers to conclude that “death is a psychologically threatening fact, but when people contemplate it, apparently the automatic system begins to search for happy thoughts”.

None of this, I’m sure, would surprise Ura, or any other Bhutanese. They know that death is a part of life, whether we like it or not, and ignoring this essential truth comes with a heavy psychological cost.

Linda Leaming, author of the wonderful book A Field Guide to Happiness: What I Learned in Bhutan About Living, Loving and Waking Up¸ knows this too.“I realised thinking about death doesn’t depress me. It makes me seize the moment and see things I might not ordinarily see,” she wrote. “My best advice: go there. Think the unthinkable, the thing that scares you to think about several times a day.”

A devotee before the Buddha Dordenma statue in Thimphu (Credit: Credit: Prakesh Mathema/AFP/Getty)

A devotee before the Buddha Dordenma statue in Thimphu. (Credit: Prakesh Mathema/AFP/Getty)

Unlike many of us in the West, the Bhutanese don’t sequester death. Death – and images of death – are everywhere, especially in Buddhist iconography where you’ll find colourful, gruesome illustrations. No one, not even children, is sheltered from these images, or from ritual dances re-enacting death.

Ritual provides a container for grief, and in Bhutan that container is large and communal. After someone dies, there’s a 49-day mourning period that involves elaborate, carefully orchestrated rituals. “It is better than any antidepressant,” Tshewang Dendup, a Bhutanese actor, told me. The Bhutanese might appear detached during this time. They are not. They are grieving through ritual.

Why such a different attitude toward death? One reason the Bhutanese think about death so often is that it is all around them. For a small nation, it offers many ways to die. You can meet your demise on the winding, treacherous roads. You can be mauled by a bear; eat poisonous mushrooms; or die of exposure.

Another explanation is the country’s deeply felt Buddhist beliefs, especially that of reincarnation. If you know you’ll get another shot at life, you’re less likely to fear the end of this particular one. As Buddhists say, you shouldn’t fear dying any more than you fear discarding old clothes.

Schoolgirls in traditional Bhutanese dresses (Credit: Credit: Roberto Schmidt/AFP/Getty)

Schoolgirls in traditional Bhutanese dresses. (Credit: Roberto Schmidt/AFP/Getty)

Which isn’t to say, of course, that the Bhutanese don’t experience fear, or sadness. Of course they do. But, as Leaming told me, they don’t flee from these emotions. “We in the West want to fix it if we’re sad,” she said. “We fear sadness. It’s something to get over, medicate. In Bhutan there’s an acceptance. It’s a part of life.

Ura’s lesson, meanwhile, stuck with me. I make it a point to think about death once a day. Unless I find myself especially stressed, or engulfed in an unexplained funk. Then I think about it twice a day.

  • By Eric Weiner

8 April 2015

Eric Weiner is a recovering malcontent and philosophical traveler. He is the author of, among other books, The Geography of Bliss and the forthcoming The Geography of Genius. Follow him on Twitter.

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Thinking about death daily inspires creativity, compassion, and change.

“Meditating on Reincarnation brings great peace of mind, body, and spirit.”
~ Robert Wizard Chaen

Laozi said “To live fully, you must be willing to die first!”
This is the Yin & Yang of the Universe.