I should know – I married and lived with a Super Alpha Female for 18 years – an Aries born in the Year of the Tiger (Chinese Zodiac) – Brenda José. I had the privilege to experience her Incredible Hulk raging temper behind the scenes but she always appeared to be super cool, calm and professional with others, CEOs, aggressive graduates, and in the face of hostility and crises.
It takes a Alpha Male to tame and calm an Alpha Female because any weaker man would be eaten alive and would run like hell at the tiniest hint or sign of temper, thunderous silent treatment, or the dagger Tiger Eye Stares.
If outsiders actually saw our legendary 7-8 hour private fights, they would mistakenly evaluate that the relationship would not last another day.
But against all odds the roller coaster, hot-cold, passive-aggressive relationship and Twin Souls love did last through all the ups and downs times including our cooling off separation periods.

Brenda’s last public corporate appearance at her farewell party on 28th January 2013. Brenda and Robert were Business Partners and Co-Coaches in ChangeU International, Asia’s top change experts.
#CalmingTheIncedibleHulkWithin
#TamingTheFemaleIncredbielHulk
Published: 23rd February 2019.
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About Robert Chaen
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Founder of Robren Mega EMall, Robren Services, ChangeU, CEO-Celebrity Whisperer, Asia’s #1 Change Expert, and the Father of Asian FireWalking
Robert Chaen is an International Keynote Speaker, writer, researcher, and change expert. He is famously known as the "CEO-Celebrity Whisperer”. Through 1-on-1 coaching, CEOs & celebrities whisper their issues and secrets to Robert, and Robert whispers back the best success secrets about business strategies, change tools, office politics & staff issues, and personal branding.
He has transformed CEOs and managers in Coca-Cola China, TVB Hong Kong, Cathay Pacific, Hong Kong Airport Services, VADS, TM, Public Bank, , 300+ MSC CEOs in S.E. Asia's Silicon Valley, etc.
He is the EKing of EMalls, the Founder of Robren Mega EMall, the World’s First Parallel Universe EMall Chian, with 100 City Mega EMalls opening in 2021-2023 (fb.com/MegaEMalls).
He is widely considered as one of the top International Platform Keynote Speakers for Resorts World Genting Senior Management Conference (Manila), 7-Eleven HK, Samsung, Coca-Cola China Mini-MBA @Tsing Hua University, Cathay Pacific, Hong Kong Jockey Club. He has interviewed PM Tun Dr Mahathir, Datuk Kamarudin (Chairman of AirAsia), Siti Nurhaliza, and other CEOs, Entrepreneurs and Influencers.
He has been widely featured in TVB, AWSJ, CNBC, SCMP, The Star, and Sin Chew. As “The Father of Asian FireWalking”, he coached TVB celebrities (Ekin Cheng Yee-Kin) to walk on 650°C fire; and raised HK$68M in the world’s 1st and only live TV Charity FireWalk (TVB Tung Wah Charity Show). If Robert can coach you to walk on 650⁰C fire, he can inspire you to be the best.
Originally based in Hong Kong for 20+ years, he had worked with top Branding/Ad agencies at J Walter Thompson and Leo Burnett, and was a certified FranklinCovey (7 Habits) in USA, and NLP MasterCoach (USA). His warmth is known to soften the most hardened, resistant skeptics.
Due to an ongoing paranormal encounter of the Angelic kind, he has been an Angel Whisperer 25 minutes before his late wife Brenda José crossed over on 23rd December 2013. Since then she has been sending him countless afterlife signs and he has written many articles and an EBook on his whisperings about The Afterlife and beyond from Angel Brenda.
Updated: 2nd August 2020.
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