Grieving: The 17 Phases of Grieving (Twin Souls Part 88]

Grieving: The 17 Phases of Grieving (Twin Souls Part 88]

Grieving can go through any of these 17 Phases of Grieving – a roller-coaster of raw emotions:

● Anger at God (“Why me, why the victim?”), life, at close ones
● Abandonment and loneliness from close friends and relatives.
Friends will tell you to be strong, to get over it, to move  on, to let go, to have closure – because they feel awkward in your feelings, crying or ranting.
● “Nobody” seems to understand what you are going through. People feel awkward and dismiss your raw public feelings.
● Massive guilt. (Always remember: “It’s not meant to be.”. Let go. Let God.)
● Ranting to keep one’s sanity (I find blogging really helps me to heal).
● Paralysis and Inertia to do anything.
● Not wanting to look at objects or be at certain places or rooms as they are memory trigger reminders of missing that someone special.
● You yearn to be with the departed soul, and may want to give up living as you find “no meaning” to continue to live.
You become insidious, reckless, and you don’t care if you die.
● Hurtful remarks by insensitive relatives and friends.
(Brenda’s sister-in-law’s sister accused me of all sorts of things in FB, and even questioned why I was there at her death bed! The temptation is give them hell but forgiving is so much harder. Her relatives might criticize me for not being a perfect husband which I myself is the first to admit; but they can’t take away the truth and love that I was there for Brenda in sickness and health, taking care for her all through her long-term Crohn’s Disease, death scares, the list is endless. What really matters is your departed loved one and you know the truth).
● You want a reassuring Afterlife Sign from the departed soul.
● You start Talking to the Departed (and the soul “talks” back from The Other Side, and only you KNOW it’s him or her).
● Depression, eating for relief and escape.
● You want the Truth and seek Unconditional Love. Liars and hypocrites piss you off the most.
● Petty things don’t matter much to you.
● You need to get psychological help and support from your best friends/ relatives/ colleagues/ Church/ Temple/ Mosque/ Society.




Grieving. Take your broken heart, make it into art.


Click for a sample template of Brenda’s Obituary-Tribute-Condolences Page.

One thing Andrew, my brother who is a Medical Doctor, did that was very beneficial when I arrived at Hong Kong International Airport from Kuala Lumpur was to get me straight into a normal functional routine as we took a slow bus back to his place.

I was like a shell-shocked walking zombie who had a sleepless night rushing to take the first flight out to Hong Kong to see Brenda. I was highly irritated with my brother for such mundane house rules and meaningless house instructions.

But you know what, normal routines like eating, showering, chatting, and even sleeping grounded me and prevented me from going to depression, despair, and massive guilt. It forced me to be physically, emotionally, mentally, and spiritually FUNCTIONAL which is the most useful thing in such extreme personal crisis.

In hindsight, I thanked my brother for this and that Brenda could hear me even when she was in a coma, as I whispered last FB and Whatsapp messages from her close friends, relatives, and graduates from all over the world.



From Twin Souls Whispering between Whisperer Robert Chaen & The Love Angel Brenda
Brenda communicated with Robert in her last 25 minutes, and showed him an irrefutable 7-11 Afterlife Sign 2 hours after she crossed-over. Since crossing-over in 23 December 2013, Brenda continues to send countless afterlife signs, and whispers Secrets from The Other Side.

Twin Souls Whisperings with Brenda
This is the last “forever” FB banner picture in Brenda Jose’s fb page.

Published on 9 April 2017.

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Global CEO-Founder of ChangeU and Movsha Movers & Shakers, Hero-CEO Whisperer, Writer, The #1 Alpha Change Expert, Father of Asian FireWalking Robert Chaen is an International Keynote Speaker, writer, researcher, and corp games designer. He is famously known to be the “Hero-CEO Whisperer”, 1-on1 coaching with many CEOs and Celebrities for corporate strategies, staff & office political issues, personal branding, and even public figure OSHA safety drilling called Drager Defense. He has transformed CEOs and managers in Coca-Cola China, TVB Hong Kong, Cathay Pacific, Hong Kong Airport Services, VADS, TM, Public Bank, Auditor General's Office Maldives, etc. He is the prolific creator and online Author of innovative management tools such as DragonCEO, Diamond Leader, Papillon Personal Effectiveness, OSHA Drager Defense, KPI Bank, etc. He is also the Founder of Movsha, an international networking with monthly mingles with MOVers & SHAkers, Angels, Entrepreneurs, CEOs, Celebrities, HR-PR-CSR, HODs, and the Most Influential IDEA people. ​Chaen is widely considered as one of the top International Platform Keynote Speakers for Resorts World Genting Senior Management Conference (Manila), 7-Eleven HK, Samsung, Coca-Cola China Mini-MBA @Tsing Hua University, Cathay Pacific, Hong Kong Jockey Club, The Story Conference where he interviewed Datuk Kamarudin (Chairman of AirAsia) and Siti Nurhaliza. He has been widely featured in TVB, AWSJ, CNBC, SCMP, The Star, and Sin Chew. As “The Father of Asian FireWalking”, he coached TVB celebrities (Ekin Cheng Yee-Kin) to walk on 650°C fire; and raised HK$68M in the world’s 1st and only live TV Charity FireWalk (TVB Tung Wah Charity Show), before Tony Robbins even came to Asia. If Robert can get you to walk on 650⁰C fire, he can inspire you to be THE BEST. He champions CN-HK-EU-US Tycoons to be philanthropic, and to be angel investors to support the next generation of Jack Mas, Steve Jobs, Richard Bransons, Steven Spielbergs, or Barrack Obamas. With some slick motivational speakers with fake doctorates out there, graduates often describe Robert to be "the most credible, empowering, truthful Coach" who believe in his graduates to believe in themselves. ​However, clients have described Robert as "The #1 Cool Badass Alpha Change Expert". He has the coolest first class stature, rapport and trust from clients. He will not hesitate to tell the badass truth ever so gently because clients are paying him big bucks to reveal the truth, find solutions, persuade the hostile HODs, and align cross-teams within the organization. Originally based in Hong Kong for 20+ years, he had worked with top Branding/Ad agencies at J Walter Thompson and Leo Burnett, and was a certified FranklinCovey (7 Habits) in USA, and NLP MasterCoach (USA). His warmth is known to soften the most hardened, resistant sceptics. He will inspire your team to Go for Top 1, or to be a Dragon CEO. With boundless energies, Robert owns 15+ successful business Joint-Ventures, and created unique products under his global VC network called Chaen's Angels VC. He is deeply passionate about ChangeUTH Youth CSR, Science-Based Medicine (vs. quackery), short films and Reality TV. Touched by a personal tragedy through the loss of his HK-born Portuguese wife, co-coach and business partner, Brenda José of 18 years, Robert explores the many ways in which the spirit world is communicating with the living with real scientific studies and evidence. He gives inspiring conferences on The Secret Afterlife.

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