Say something, I’m giving up on you in Facebook. A Wizard Chaen Social Experiment

Say something, I’m giving up on you in Facebook
A Wizard Chaen Social Experiment


Social Experiment: Say nothing in Facebook and expect sympathy and concerns.


On Sunday 13 March 2016, I posted the following 3 short sentences in my personal Facebook timeline as a social experiment:
I’m leaving Malaysia for good!
I had enough!
You can go LOVE yourself!

My post had no emojis, no pictures, no details – nothing to give a little clue why I sounded so upset.

Now, why do people do that in Facebook, or other social media i.e. say or rant something that implies you are very upset but give absolutely no details. You expect friends to read your silent mind.

This is as bad as politicians and murderers who threaten to reveal everything but say and do nothing for months!

No names, no facts, no substance! Why are you wasting our time threatening nothing.
Just shut up.

To me, it’s so irritating to try to guess what’s the matter with the writer.
For example if someone posts “I hate you.”

Is he talking about me, his ex, his mistress? Who?

Is she talking about an incident 1 day ago, 1 month ago, 3 past lives ago? When?

Is he or he dying, sick, depressed, or heart-broken? Why?

Is he talking about his workplace, his home, his toilet? Where?

Is she ok? Does she need my tender, loving and caring massage or help from me? How?

Or importantly, is he thinking of killing himself? What? Say something.

My “angry” posting was highly unusual in my normal patterns of behavior. I personally do not post any spontaneous ranting with no details. I don’t whine, I’m not a complaining type.

As a polished alpha Diamond Leader, coach and CEO of ChangeU, I don’t want to waste people’s time to be concerned or worried about me. So I never post something that says nothing. By the way, unpolished “alphas” are people or bosses who are very tough, blunt, and arrogant like Donald Trump.

The first response to my FB posting came 24 minutes later from a staff member – but no comments or concerns about my leaving Malaysia for good. I mean the implications are huge for my staff, right.

Or are my friends so immune that they don’t feel any concern at all?

“Say something, or shut up!
Or I’m giving up on you in Facebook.”
~ Robert “Wizard” Chaen

Robert Chaen is the CEO of ChangeU.

Published on 26 March 2016 (2:10 pm)
Updated on 28 March 2016 (12:52 pm)



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Robert Chaen

Global CEO-Founder of ChangeU and Movsha Movers & Shakers, Hero-CEO Whisperer, Writer, The #1 Alpha Change Expert, Father of Asian FireWalking Robert Chaen is an International Keynote Speaker, writer, researcher, and corp games designer. He is famously known to be the “Hero-CEO Whisperer”, 1-on1 coaching with many CEOs and Celebrities for corporate strategies, staff & office political issues, personal branding, and even public figure OSHA safety drilling called Drager Defense. He has transformed CEOs and managers in Coca-Cola China, TVB Hong Kong, Cathay Pacific, Hong Kong Airport Services, VADS, TM, Public Bank, Auditor General's Office Maldives, etc. He is the prolific creator and online Author of innovative management tools such as DragonCEO, Diamond Leader, Papillon Personal Effectiveness, OSHA Drager Defense, KPI Bank, etc. He is also the Founder of Movsha, an international networking with monthly mingles with MOVers & SHAkers, Angels, Entrepreneurs, CEOs, Celebrities, HR-PR-CSR, HODs, and the Most Influential IDEA people. ​Chaen is widely considered as one of the top International Platform Keynote Speakers for Resorts World Genting Senior Management Conference (Manila), 7-Eleven HK, Samsung, Coca-Cola China Mini-MBA @Tsing Hua University, Cathay Pacific, Hong Kong Jockey Club, The Story Conference where he interviewed Datuk Kamarudin (Chairman of AirAsia) and Siti Nurhaliza. He has been widely featured in TVB, AWSJ, CNBC, SCMP, The Star, and Sin Chew. As “The Father of Asian FireWalking”, he coached TVB celebrities (Ekin Cheng Yee-Kin) to walk on 650°C fire; and raised HK$68M in the world’s 1st and only live TV Charity FireWalk (TVB Tung Wah Charity Show), before Tony Robbins even came to Asia. If Robert can get you to walk on 650⁰C fire, he can inspire you to be THE BEST. He champions CN-HK-EU-US Tycoons to be philanthropic, and to be angel investors to support the next generation of Jack Mas, Steve Jobs, Richard Bransons, Steven Spielbergs, or Barrack Obamas. With some slick motivational speakers with fake doctorates out there, graduates often describe Robert to be "the most credible, empowering, truthful Coach" who believe in his graduates to believe in themselves. ​However, clients have described Robert as "The #1 Cool Badass Alpha Change Expert". He has the coolest first class stature, rapport and trust from clients. He will not hesitate to tell the badass truth ever so gently because clients are paying him big bucks to reveal the truth, find solutions, persuade the hostile HODs, and align cross-teams within the organization. Originally based in Hong Kong for 20+ years, he had worked with top Branding/Ad agencies at J Walter Thompson and Leo Burnett, and was a certified FranklinCovey (7 Habits) in USA, and NLP MasterCoach (USA). His warmth is known to soften the most hardened, resistant sceptics. He will inspire your team to Go for Top 1, or to be a Dragon CEO. With boundless energies, Robert owns 15+ successful business Joint-Ventures, and created unique products under his global VC network called Chaen's Angels VC. He is deeply passionate about ChangeUTH Youth CSR, Science-Based Medicine (vs. quackery), short films and Reality TV. Touched by a personal tragedy through the loss of his HK-born Portuguese wife, co-coach and business partner, Brenda José of 18 years, Robert explores the many ways in which the spirit world is communicating with the living with real scientific studies and evidence. He gives inspiring conferences on The Secret Afterlife.

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