Promising to bring Brenda back: My Last Time Together with Brenda José and her Last Boxes of Clues [Twin Souls Part 72]

Promising to bring Brenda back: My Last Time Together with Brenda José and her Last Boxes of Clues
[Twin Souls Part 72]

Brenda came back to Malaysia for one last time.

She stayed with me for 2 weeks from 7 to 21 October 2013. She had to move all her 40 boxes from a friend’s place to my place temporarily.

Brenda’s boxes of clues…

She was very weak. But not so much different to alert me of any dangers. I’ve seen her in worst form. One time she had a bad episode of Crohn’s Disease. She was only 72 pounds or 33 kilograms. I broke my heart to see her that thin.

Test 6. abandonment

Extreme unhappiness and hellish conditions living with her old parents
She shared how she was extremely unhappy living with her parents especially with her dad as he is very old (93 then), quite blind, have paranoia, and a furious uncontrollable temper for many years. She became her dad’s emotional punching bag – daily.

Her mum had 5 strokes already yet she can function and recovered from being partially paralyzed. Her mum was the stronger, dominant parent  for most of their marriage. It’s their  66th anniversary this year. Both Brenda and her mum were born in the year of the tiger.

Her mum could “control” the bad temper of her dad for most of their marriage. But since her first stroke she has been bullied by the Brenda’s dad. She had no energy to put dad into his place. He would go on yelling rage just watching or listening the daily news. He had major judgments and would lash out with mood swings.

Then there was the bullying of their maid. The maid refuse to cook for Brenda at some periods of her stay. The maid was very ungrateful as Brenda had given the maid HK$15,000 unconditionally to help her with loan sharks.

Brenda’s Test of Faith #5: Abandonment by Friends and Family
I only realized later that those last conversations had a lot of meaning. She passed her Test of Faith #5: Abandonment by Friends and Family in 2013. I for the first time felt her deep pain of abandonment – for one full extremely horrible day. I couldn’t imagine her pain of feeling abandoned for long periods of time. Some abandonment was when we were a couple but I couldn’t feel it. I was not sensitive enough. I dismissed and judged her periods and feelings of abandonment.

Our last night together was extremely emotional
I shared that with her. I gave her some close hugs. Her body was so fragile.
I really felt her deep pain. We both sobbed in each other’s embrace.

I promised her that I would bring her back to Malaysia in a few months’ time.
I assured her to hang on a little more as I sort and arrange situation on my side.
I told her to stay in my spare room first and that we’ll work out a plan for her shelter, food, and maybe even work when she get better.
I promised her that I would not let her be in such hellish conditions – not in my watch and protection.

We hugged and kissed goodbye very early on Monday 21 October as I was coaching Paramount Property for the next 2 days.

Right after that goodbye suddenly I was extremely busy with new projects. I hardly had much time to check on her.

63 days later I was at her death bed.
All her major organs failed as she had her second perforated intestines from Crohn’s Disease – which leaked toxics throughout her body.

She was in a coma, although she could hear me.
I saw her die over 23 hours and 23 minutes.

Brenda crossed over the next day after the dark night of the Winter Solstice.
I couldn’t save her, my Twin Soul.
I couldn’t fulfill my promises of bringing her back and taking care of her.
As always I had plans for her…

But God had much bigger plans for her as The Angel of Unconditional Love. 
It was not meant to be.


Forgiving my Guilt
The guilt was 10,000 times super intensive when I realized that I couldn’t save her.
She was in a coma. I saw her die over 23 hours and 23 minutes.
I don’t know how I passed my first and the hardest Test of Faith #1: Seeing my Twin Soul die.

Boxes of Clues and Afterlife Messages
I had this powerful spine-chilling realization that the “Twin Soul Otherside” of Brenda has left many “clues” all over in her 40 boxes – about her afterlife messages to all of us and our future.

Her 40 boxes are not random left behind boxes.

After 26 months I’m ready to clear the boxes – let see what unfolds. I hope I don’t cry too much.

From clearing Brenda’s boxes

This is the first Brenda’s message to me from the boxes.
The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams.


From Twin Souls Whispering between Wizard Chaen & Angel Brenda.

whispering baby

Published on 6 March 2016
Updated on 21 March 2016 (5:20 pm)
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Global CEO-Founder of ChangeU and Movsha Movers & Shakers, Hero-CEO Whisperer, Writer, The #1 Alpha Change Expert, Father of Asian FireWalking Robert Chaen is an International Keynote Speaker, writer, researcher, and corp games designer. He is famously known to be the “Hero-CEO Whisperer”, 1-on1 coaching with many CEOs and Celebrities for corporate strategies, staff & office political issues, personal branding, and even public figure OSHA safety drilling called Drager Defense. He has transformed CEOs and managers in Coca-Cola China, TVB Hong Kong, Cathay Pacific, Hong Kong Airport Services, VADS, TM, Public Bank, Auditor General's Office Maldives, etc. He is the prolific creator and online Author of innovative management tools such as DragonCEO, Diamond Leader, Papillon Personal Effectiveness, OSHA Drager Defense, KPI Bank, etc. He is also the Founder of Movsha, an international networking with monthly mingles with MOVers & SHAkers, Angels, Entrepreneurs, CEOs, Celebrities, HR-PR-CSR, HODs, and the Most Influential IDEA people. ​Chaen is widely considered as one of the top International Platform Keynote Speakers for Resorts World Genting Senior Management Conference (Manila), 7-Eleven HK, Samsung, Coca-Cola China Mini-MBA @Tsing Hua University, Cathay Pacific, Hong Kong Jockey Club, The Story Conference where he interviewed Datuk Kamarudin (Chairman of AirAsia) and Siti Nurhaliza. He has been widely featured in TVB, AWSJ, CNBC, SCMP, The Star, and Sin Chew. As “The Father of Asian FireWalking”, he coached TVB celebrities (Ekin Cheng Yee-Kin) to walk on 650°C fire; and raised HK$68M in the world’s 1st and only live TV Charity FireWalk (TVB Tung Wah Charity Show), before Tony Robbins even came to Asia. If Robert can get you to walk on 650⁰C fire, he can inspire you to be THE BEST. He champions CN-HK-EU-US Tycoons to be philanthropic, and to be angel investors to support the next generation of Jack Mas, Steve Jobs, Richard Bransons, Steven Spielbergs, or Barrack Obamas. With some slick motivational speakers with fake doctorates out there, graduates often describe Robert to be "the most credible, empowering, truthful Coach" who believe in his graduates to believe in themselves. ​However, clients have described Robert as "The #1 Cool Badass Alpha Change Expert". He has the coolest first class stature, rapport and trust from clients. He will not hesitate to tell the badass truth ever so gently because clients are paying him big bucks to reveal the truth, find solutions, persuade the hostile HODs, and align cross-teams within the organization. Originally based in Hong Kong for 20+ years, he had worked with top Branding/Ad agencies at J Walter Thompson and Leo Burnett, and was a certified FranklinCovey (7 Habits) in USA, and NLP MasterCoach (USA). His warmth is known to soften the most hardened, resistant sceptics. He will inspire your team to Go for Top 1, or to be a Dragon CEO. With boundless energies, Robert owns 15+ successful business Joint-Ventures, and created unique products under his global VC network called Chaen's Angels VC. He is deeply passionate about ChangeUTH Youth CSR, Science-Based Medicine (vs. quackery), short films and Reality TV. Touched by a personal tragedy through the loss of his HK-born Portuguese wife, co-coach and business partner, Brenda José of 18 years, Robert explores the many ways in which the spirit world is communicating with the living with real scientific studies and evidence. He gives inspiring conferences on The Secret Afterlife.

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