Are wives sex slaves?

Are wives sex slaves?

Sex without consent IS rape regardless of the couple’s religion.


“Not tonight. I’m tired.”

“Sorry darling, I’m not feeling well.”

“I’m having my menses.”

When a wife utters these words, how many men do you think will respect her enough to wish her “goodnight” without further persuading her into sexual intercourse with him?

None? Not many?

Well, think again.

I know of many women who are forced by their husbands to submit to sex. I have also heard of a few unfortunate ones who were sodomised by their husbands when they were incapable of having vaginal intercourse due to health reasons.

Are these couples Muslim?


For too long, marriage has been a ticket for some husbands to indulge in one of human’s basic needs – sex, without the compulsion to carry on the duties of a good, responsible man.

This takes place not only in the Muslim world, between Muslim couples, but covers all races, of all ethnicities and religions.

As a woman who was once married and a counsellor of sorts to many female friends, relatives and acquaintances, please do take my word seriously when I say sex without consent happens in many marriages – Muslim and non-Muslim.

Now, what is the difference between sex without consent and rape? Nothing.

Sex without consent IS rape.

Does the religion of the couple matter in deciding if it’s rape?

Well, does religion matter in a case of abuse?

A crime is a crime. As a rape is a rape.

It matters not if the offender is a stranger, her postman, her boss, her grandpa or even her husband – it doesn’t change the fact that a rape is a rape.

It is as simple as that.

But funny how people tend to complicate the simplest of things.

I am referring to people like Harrusani Zakaria (Perak Mufti) and Islamic organisations like Hizbut Tahrir, whose existence I have come to believe is purely to confuse others.

These are the people who claim Islam as a fair and just religion, yet make contradicting statements of how a Muslim husband is the rightful owner of his wife’s body. These religious scholars promote kindness and love in Islam, but claim a Muslim husband does not need his wife’s consent for sex. They talk of respect and tolerance, however declare that a Muslim wife must never say no to her husband and there is no provision in Islam for marital rape.

I can’t help but wonder why these religious scholars, who are supposed to uphold the image of Islam, are tarnishing it instead? Why confuse people more than they already are?

My guess would be because they are confused themselves.

It doesn’t take a rocket scientist to understand that in Islam, a husband must respect, adore, care for, and appreciate his wife. As such, how on earth can Islam permit a husband to rape his wife?


It is sickening how people claiming to be champions in matters regarding Islam, can misinterpret the religion’s basic principles, which is kindness, respect, love and understanding.

The Prophet ruled:

“There should be no harming nor reciprocating harm.” (Narrated by Ibn Maajah, 2340)

“Be kind to women.” (Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 3153; Muslim, 1468).

And as The Holy Quran clearly states:

“O ye who believe! Ye are forbidden to inherit women against their will. Nor should ye treat them with harshness…” (Surah An-Nisa, 4:19).

“…if any men do injustice, soon shall We cast them into the Fire…” (Surah An-Nisa, 4:30)

“…and women have rights similar to their husbands (as regards to obedience and respect) to what is reasonable, but men have a degree (of responsibility) over them.” (Surah Al-Baqarah, 2:228)

“Men are the protectors and maintainers of women, because Allah has made one of them to excel the other.” (Surah Anl-Nisa, 4:34)

These verses clearly prove that Islam does not condone women being treated like sex slaves in marriage. But neither does other religions.

This brings up another issue – marital rape in the eyes of the law.

While Syariah law defines rape as an act between two unmarried individuals, making it impossible to prosecute a Muslim husband for the rape of his wife, the Penal Code allows a wife to successfully prosecute her husband for raping her.

Where is the justice, I ask you, when a religion of a victim decides the punishment of the offender? Whatever happened to the concept of justice and fairness in Islam? Is our Syariah Law even in accordance with Islam?

Our Common Law on the other hand is not all that perfect either. Under the Penal Code, a wife can only claim to be raped by her husband if she is severely traumatised due to fear or is suffering a great deal of physical injury.

So, should non-Muslim women start wishing for their husbands to beat the hell out of them during non-consensual sex in order for them to file for rape?


Looks like both laws have failed us women.

That explains why more women are willing to stay single. I don’t blame them.

Rape. Non-consensual sex. Call it whatever you want. It’s all wrong.

And that’s a fact.

#RapeWife   #WifeSexSlave  #SyariahLaw   #ShariahLaw

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Robert Chaen

Global CEO-Founder of ChangeU and Movsha Movers & Shakers, Hero-CEO Whisperer, Writer, The #1 Alpha Change Expert, Father of Asian FireWalking Robert Chaen is an International Keynote Speaker, writer, researcher, and corp games designer. He is famously known to be the “Hero-CEO Whisperer”, 1-on1 coaching with many CEOs and Celebrities for corporate strategies, staff & office political issues, personal branding, and even public figure OSHA safety drilling called Drager Defense. He has transformed CEOs and managers in Coca-Cola China, TVB Hong Kong, Cathay Pacific, Hong Kong Airport Services, VADS, TM, Public Bank, Auditor General's Office Maldives, etc. He is the prolific creator and online Author of innovative management tools such as DragonCEO, Diamond Leader, Papillon Personal Effectiveness, OSHA Drager Defense, KPI Bank, etc. He is also the Founder of Movsha, an international networking with monthly mingles with MOVers & SHAkers, Angels, Entrepreneurs, CEOs, Celebrities, HR-PR-CSR, HODs, and the Most Influential IDEA people. ​Chaen is widely considered as one of the top International Platform Keynote Speakers for Resorts World Genting Senior Management Conference (Manila), 7-Eleven HK, Samsung, Coca-Cola China Mini-MBA @Tsing Hua University, Cathay Pacific, Hong Kong Jockey Club, The Story Conference where he interviewed Datuk Kamarudin (Chairman of AirAsia) and Siti Nurhaliza. He has been widely featured in TVB, AWSJ, CNBC, SCMP, The Star, and Sin Chew. As “The Father of Asian FireWalking”, he coached TVB celebrities (Ekin Cheng Yee-Kin) to walk on 650°C fire; and raised HK$68M in the world’s 1st and only live TV Charity FireWalk (TVB Tung Wah Charity Show), before Tony Robbins even came to Asia. If Robert can get you to walk on 650⁰C fire, he can inspire you to be THE BEST. He champions CN-HK-EU-US Tycoons to be philanthropic, and to be angel investors to support the next generation of Jack Mas, Steve Jobs, Richard Bransons, Steven Spielbergs, or Barrack Obamas. With some slick motivational speakers with fake doctorates out there, graduates often describe Robert to be "the most credible, empowering, truthful Coach" who believe in his graduates to believe in themselves. ​However, clients have described Robert as "The #1 Cool Badass Alpha Change Expert". He has the coolest first class stature, rapport and trust from clients. He will not hesitate to tell the badass truth ever so gently because clients are paying him big bucks to reveal the truth, find solutions, persuade the hostile HODs, and align cross-teams within the organization. Originally based in Hong Kong for 20+ years, he had worked with top Branding/Ad agencies at J Walter Thompson and Leo Burnett, and was a certified FranklinCovey (7 Habits) in USA, and NLP MasterCoach (USA). His warmth is known to soften the most hardened, resistant sceptics. He will inspire your team to Go for Top 1, or to be a Dragon CEO. With boundless energies, Robert owns 15+ successful business Joint-Ventures, and created unique products under his global VC network called Chaen's Angels VC. He is deeply passionate about ChangeUTH Youth CSR, Science-Based Medicine (vs. quackery), short films and Reality TV. Touched by a personal tragedy through the loss of his HK-born Portuguese wife, co-coach and business partner, Brenda José of 18 years, Robert explores the many ways in which the spirit world is communicating with the living with real scientific studies and evidence. He gives inspiring conferences on The Secret Afterlife.

One thought on “Are wives sex slaves?”

  1. The relationship between Husband and Wife is like a TRUSTED Bondage of Mutual-Friendship!!! As a matter of fact, Sex can NOT take place WITHOUT the fullest CONSENT of the wife!!! Wife can have routine Periodic problems lah!!! That’s a RED SIGNAL from the part of wife!!! If Husband still FORCES his wife to get engaged in sexual intercourse, with her 100% OPPOSITION, Then That is Called RAPE!!! And A Rape is but a Rape and obviously PUNISHABLE under LAW ; No Matter even if it is carried out by the So-Called Husband!!! Have U Got That!!! You just can not JUSTIFY THE ACT OF RAPE by any sort of Human-Relationship!!! All Rapists Ought To Be Punished, under Federal Law!!! Thanks in plenty Mr. President!!!


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