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My parents’ Michael & Jessica’s Diamond Jubilee (60th Anniversary) on 11 July, 2009

Taking this Mother’s Day occasion to showcase my parents’ Diamond Jubilee


Renewal of marriage vows at St. Michael’s Church, Ipoh, Malaysia.

Mainstream newspapers such as The Star, New Straits Times, Sin Chew, Nanyang Siang Pao, and China Press covered the event.


All in the Chen family. 4 sons: Andrew, Jimmy, Tom (from left sitting), me (middle)

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“Dad, go ahead and give Mum a big kiss!” game.

Tell your mum you love her – Robert Chaen

May 11, 2014

Original article in The Malaysian Insider:  http://www.themalaysianinsider.com/sideviews/article/tell-your-mum-you-love-her-robert-chaen

Our parents take care of us for an average of 36,500 hours. Give back in their old age.

Many parents take care of us until we are independent, beyond our adulthood, and for some even until death.

They go out of their way to help us during times of trouble, sickness, educational needs, wants, car loan, breakdown, worry and critical financial support when no one else will help us.
Our parents champion us to go for gold, to be best. They pull us up when we were down and out. They provide what is possible within their means and sacrifice a major part of lives for the betterment of us.

“Blood is thicker than water”, my father will always say. There were so many times when it was so inconvenient for them in their busy schedule to tend to us, but yet they did – no matter what.

Our parents are our driver, maid, cook, cleaner, laundry person, nurse, psychologist, motivator, coach, counsellor, mentor, cheerleader, tutor, instructor, financier and “punching bag”.

They waited for us for hours, worried sick about us, cracked their heads on how to make ends meet, put food on the table, picked up our mess and bought us toys to keep us occupied if not we would had tear down the house.

That’s what good parents do.

Of course, let’s admit that the above examples will not be true for all parents. Parents, after all, are still human, with many faults, financial burden, multiple restrictions, and all have their dark and weak sides.

So, is it too much to ask to give back to our parents when it’s their turn to receive help, love, in their times of need, ill health and old age?

Or, do you think they have become such a nuisance, an irritation and painfully slow, stubborn, old-fashioned and backward?

And you just can’t understand why they have become senile, “grumpy old man and naggy woman” and unreasonably needy – in their “second childhood”.

A few hours or a weekend of quality at home with our parents will be much appreciated by them even though they will always say “Oh… you don’t need to come home if you are too busy at work”.

A few hours at home or 15 minutes on the phone is nothing compared with more than 36,500 hours they spent taking care of us (basing on the average eight hours a day from birth until 12 years old, and four hours a day from 13 to 18).

Happy Mother’s Day.

Give your mum a big hug today. And tell her “I love you Mum!” – May 11, 2014.

* Robert Chaen is an international change expert and online pollster. He writes at www.RobertChaen.com and www.Facebook.com/RobertChaen.

* This is the personal opinion of the writer or publication and does not necessarily represent the views of The Malaysian Insider.