Passing the “Winter Solstice Dark Night of the Soul” for Brenda [Twin Souls Part 10]

Tong Yuen – famous Winter Solstice dessert eaten all year round.


Passing the “Winter Solstice Dark Night of the Soul” for Brenda [Twin Souls Part 10]

All of a sudden during 2 months after she left Malaysia on October 21st,
I opened 4 new business lines, designed 3 website content, directed 10+ new logos and icons, hired 10+ Trainers, new office staff.

It was the busiest ever business period for me as the CEO in the history of the ChangeU Group.

I had many business plans and ideas in that 2 months.
But God has other plans…

… I looked at the clock it was 4:00am and I was nodding…nodding…
I had only 2 hours of sleep and I was dead tired.
I walked around on a spot to keep awake for 15 minutes.
I couldn’t take it.
I joined Brenda’s Dad and Anita sleeping on the hard chair outside the corridor.

We woke up at around 6:45am to check on Brenda.
I was shocked that her heart rate had fallen from 130+ to around 80.
Better eat a quick breakfast… could be anytime soon I thought.

It was passed what the doctor predicted.

Whatsapp-Facebook communication hub
At 8:23am I quickly set up an effective Whatsapp-Facebook communication hub between me and my Intern Team in Malaysia.
I would Whatsapp Brenda situation updates, and the 4 of them as a team would post as fast possible in both my personal Robert Chaen Changeu Facebook account and Brenda’s Facebook account.

Kind of like a mini-CNN live reports.
I was reporting one way Whatsapp to my staff.

But I could not see the FB posts and replies until after it was all over.
It was super frenetic at times for my team and I.

At around 8:30am Brenda’s Dad made a request for me to call our friend Nelson to inform him about the bad news.
Horror of horrors… I had lost most contacts.
I was not prepared at all for such a crisis like this.

Brenda’s heart rate hovered just above 40-50.

The Passing of Winter Solstice Dark Night of the Soul
At 9:12am I Whatsapp Anita’s point that it’s very major to pass-over the Winter Solstice December 22 night (Sunday),
to crossover the big obstacle according to Chinese beliefs.
So it’s so obvious that Brenda is waiting to see his Hong Kong friends…

Brenda wanted to see her friends
Yes, Brenda was happy to see me.
But Brenda’s soul wanted to see her friends too who are very important to her.

It was the start of a super frenetic rush to call Hong Kong people and FB people to come urgently
I opened my Mac and found Royce Tseng mobile.
I woke her up and she greeted me with such enthusiasm for 30 seconds.
Then in a low calm voice I told her.
Dead silence…

I said please contact all the Sau Wa Fong, Wan Chai gang.

I called Edward Lee. I told me to call all ex-CSSL friends.

By 10:00am the first 4 Hong Kong friends arrived but they couldn’t go in as the morning of doctors were there for a long time.
(Edward, Tracy, Simon, Martin).

The Last Roman Catholic Rites
Brenda was Portuguese, born and raised in Hong Kong.
She was born into a Roman Catholic family.

But she is not Catholic or religious.
Brenda is spiritual i.e. universal but not attached to any religion.

A British Catholic priest was called.
The immediate family including Brenda’s Mum and I went in at 10:40am (no friends).

I looked at the life stats counter which became the main monitoring tool for the rest of the day.

Brenda’s heart rate was below 40.
…and the counter machine began making a horrifying warning sound which lasted for eternity.

The priest gave the last rites, and absolve her sins – firstly in good Cantonese and then in English.

He splash holy water at the immediate family.
At around 11:00am I rushed the 4 ex-CSSL friends to say their goodbyes.

Then a powerful thought came for friends to talk directly to Brenda via my mobile.

Published: Sunday, 27 April, 2014. 2:11pm

[Continued in… @Part 11]

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Robert Chaen

Global CEO-Founder of ChangeU and Movsha Movers & Shakers, Hero-CEO Whisperer, Writer, The #1 Alpha Change Expert, Father of Asian FireWalking Robert Chaen is an International Keynote Speaker, writer, researcher, and corp games designer. He is famously known to be the “Hero-CEO Whisperer”, 1-on1 coaching with many CEOs and Celebrities for corporate strategies, staff & office political issues, personal branding, and even public figure OSHA safety drilling called Drager Defense. He has transformed CEOs and managers in Coca-Cola China, TVB Hong Kong, Cathay Pacific, Hong Kong Airport Services, VADS, TM, Public Bank, Auditor General's Office Maldives, etc. He is the prolific creator and online Author of innovative management tools such as DragonCEO, Diamond Leader, Papillon Personal Effectiveness, OSHA Drager Defense, KPI Bank, etc. He is also the Founder of Movsha, an international networking with monthly mingles with MOVers & SHAkers, Angels, Entrepreneurs, CEOs, Celebrities, HR-PR-CSR, HODs, and the Most Influential IDEA people. ​Chaen is widely considered as one of the top International Platform Keynote Speakers for Resorts World Genting Senior Management Conference (Manila), 7-Eleven HK, Samsung, Coca-Cola China Mini-MBA @Tsing Hua University, Cathay Pacific, Hong Kong Jockey Club, The Story Conference where he interviewed Datuk Kamarudin (Chairman of AirAsia) and Siti Nurhaliza. He has been widely featured in TVB, AWSJ, CNBC, SCMP, The Star, and Sin Chew. As “The Father of Asian FireWalking”, he coached TVB celebrities (Ekin Cheng Yee-Kin) to walk on 650°C fire; and raised HK$68M in the world’s 1st and only live TV Charity FireWalk (TVB Tung Wah Charity Show), before Tony Robbins even came to Asia. If Robert can get you to walk on 650⁰C fire, he can inspire you to be THE BEST. He champions CN-HK-EU-US Tycoons to be philanthropic, and to be angel investors to support the next generation of Jack Mas, Steve Jobs, Richard Bransons, Steven Spielbergs, or Barrack Obamas. With some slick motivational speakers with fake doctorates out there, graduates often describe Robert to be "the most credible, empowering, truthful Coach" who believe in his graduates to believe in themselves. ​However, clients have described Robert as "The #1 Cool Badass Alpha Change Expert". He has the coolest first class stature, rapport and trust from clients. He will not hesitate to tell the badass truth ever so gently because clients are paying him big bucks to reveal the truth, find solutions, persuade the hostile HODs, and align cross-teams within the organization. Originally based in Hong Kong for 20+ years, he had worked with top Branding/Ad agencies at J Walter Thompson and Leo Burnett, and was a certified FranklinCovey (7 Habits) in USA, and NLP MasterCoach (USA). His warmth is known to soften the most hardened, resistant sceptics. He will inspire your team to Go for Top 1, or to be a Dragon CEO. With boundless energies, Robert owns 15+ successful business Joint-Ventures, and created unique products under his global VC network called Chaen's Angels VC. He is deeply passionate about ChangeUTH Youth CSR, Science-Based Medicine (vs. quackery), short films and Reality TV. Touched by a personal tragedy through the loss of his HK-born Portuguese wife, co-coach and business partner, Brenda José of 18 years, Robert explores the many ways in which the spirit world is communicating with the living with real scientific studies and evidence. He gives inspiring conferences on The Secret Afterlife.

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