Living with Marilyn Monroe’s Borderline Personality Disorder and Bipolar Disorder

Can't handle me at my worst (2)

Marilyn had both bipolar disorder (manic depressive) and borderline personality disorder. It’s very hard to live one with one let alone with the 2 disorders.

You feel you are walking on egg shells. Anything may make her insecure, and set her on a rageful mood swing. She was very emotional high maintenance.

She was searching for ‘Mr. Perfect’ and ‘Mr. Right’which there are none on Earth. Her self esteem was based on her ultra sex appeal, looks and body. She had major identity issues. So when she lost a bit of the glamour and she got older and less beautiful she got depressed.

Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) was know to affect Princess Diana, Angelina Jolie, Megan Fox (Transformers), Lindsay Lohan, Britney Spears… There are more women with BPD than man (some surveys report about a 5:1 ratio with more women than men). My take is society in both in the West and East still treats women with unrealistic expectations and see women as sex objects. Therefore, women and some gay men grow up with such insecurities, identity and sexual preference issues. Read more:

When the mentor who she relied heavily on was too busy to give her the time and day, she felt abandoned and committed suicide.

The main point about the quote here is not about her disorders or men desiring her.

But one need to be able to handle or live with a partner at her very worst. Loving a partner when she is in her best mood is naturally easy. But can you love her at her extreme worst behavior – that’s the ultimate test of a partner relationship. 

May be Monroe would be an extreme example of accepting a woman at her worst. You don’t deserve her extreme moods. You deserve better. Unless you are willing to live through the ‘hell’ of constant emotional roller coaster, I recommend you leave a Marilyn Monroe Borderline PD type.

Or, if you are willing to put up with it then both of you need professional psycho-therapy – but not to rely solely on drugs. Triggers will easily override any drug . The brain and mental defense is much more powerful than drugs. ‘Triggers‘ can be stressful events, no money, loss of job, and usually a big fight with a partner or  a close family member.

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Robert Chaen

Global CEO-Founder of ChangeU and Movsha Movers & Shakers, Hero-CEO Whisperer, Writer, The #1 Alpha Change Expert, Father of Asian FireWalking Robert Chaen is an International Keynote Speaker, writer, researcher, and corp games designer. He is famously known to be the “Hero-CEO Whisperer”, 1-on1 coaching with many CEOs and Celebrities for corporate strategies, staff & office political issues, personal branding, and even public figure OSHA safety drilling called Drager Defense. He has transformed CEOs and managers in Coca-Cola China, TVB Hong Kong, Cathay Pacific, Hong Kong Airport Services, VADS, TM, Public Bank, Auditor General's Office Maldives, etc. He is the prolific creator and online Author of innovative management tools such as DragonCEO, Diamond Leader, Papillon Personal Effectiveness, OSHA Drager Defense, KPI Bank, etc. He is also the Founder of Movsha, an international networking with monthly mingles with MOVers & SHAkers, Angels, Entrepreneurs, CEOs, Celebrities, HR-PR-CSR, HODs, and the Most Influential IDEA people. ​Chaen is widely considered as one of the top International Platform Keynote Speakers for Resorts World Genting Senior Management Conference (Manila), 7-Eleven HK, Samsung, Coca-Cola China Mini-MBA @Tsing Hua University, Cathay Pacific, Hong Kong Jockey Club, The Story Conference where he interviewed Datuk Kamarudin (Chairman of AirAsia) and Siti Nurhaliza. He has been widely featured in TVB, AWSJ, CNBC, SCMP, The Star, and Sin Chew. As “The Father of Asian FireWalking”, he coached TVB celebrities (Ekin Cheng Yee-Kin) to walk on 650°C fire; and raised HK$68M in the world’s 1st and only live TV Charity FireWalk (TVB Tung Wah Charity Show), before Tony Robbins even came to Asia. If Robert can get you to walk on 650⁰C fire, he can inspire you to be THE BEST. He champions CN-HK-EU-US Tycoons to be philanthropic, and to be angel investors to support the next generation of Jack Mas, Steve Jobs, Richard Bransons, Steven Spielbergs, or Barrack Obamas. With some slick motivational speakers with fake doctorates out there, graduates often describe Robert to be "the most credible, empowering, truthful Coach" who believe in his graduates to believe in themselves. ​However, clients have described Robert as "The #1 Cool Badass Alpha Change Expert". He has the coolest first class stature, rapport and trust from clients. He will not hesitate to tell the badass truth ever so gently because clients are paying him big bucks to reveal the truth, find solutions, persuade the hostile HODs, and align cross-teams within the organization. Originally based in Hong Kong for 20+ years, he had worked with top Branding/Ad agencies at J Walter Thompson and Leo Burnett, and was a certified FranklinCovey (7 Habits) in USA, and NLP MasterCoach (USA). His warmth is known to soften the most hardened, resistant sceptics. He will inspire your team to Go for Top 1, or to be a Dragon CEO. With boundless energies, Robert owns 15+ successful business Joint-Ventures, and created unique products under his global VC network called Chaen's Angels VC. He is deeply passionate about ChangeUTH Youth CSR, Science-Based Medicine (vs. quackery), short films and Reality TV. Touched by a personal tragedy through the loss of his HK-born Portuguese wife, co-coach and business partner, Brenda José of 18 years, Robert explores the many ways in which the spirit world is communicating with the living with real scientific studies and evidence. He gives inspiring conferences on The Secret Afterlife.

3 thoughts on “Living with Marilyn Monroe’s Borderline Personality Disorder and Bipolar Disorder”

  1. This explains why men have been known to say “crazy women are excellent lovers” because of the manic high & increased energy but the relationships never last. I would avoid snyone with major self-esteem & dependency issues. As you say, those people need severe help & nobody deserves to live with that hell.


    1. Good for you, Joe D. Luckily for you you’ll never be a woman and therefore never have to deal with sexist, stereotypical aphorisms like that being thrown at you all the time, and given you are so critical of people with self-esteem and dependency issues it sounds like you have very limited empathy and lack the strength to be around people who are suffering more than you are. Truly admirable.

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